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My story of applying, getting in, and being a mom in Y Combinator

by nnnnnn on 10/14/14, 10:50 PM with 97 comments

  • by aresant on 10/15/14, 4:49 AM

    There's an interesting back story on the Women.com domain.

    NBC owned women.com and women.net from the takeover of iVillage.

    A domain broker - Benjamin Padnos - won the domains at auction at SEDO for $1m in 2010, but the CEO of NBC - Jeff Zucker - blocked the domain name sale personally.

    Padnos wound up suing NBC and SEDO and settling, taking the domain names(1).

    Then he sold them to Susan in 2012 who purchased them with "some of the money she’d earned [at facebook]" (2)(3)

    I have a ton of respect for the commitment on that transaction.

    2012 was actually a relatively GOOD time to buy TLD's, compared to today's even-more-insane-than-insane-market.

    And given that the WHOIS for Women.com is literally registered to her name / email I hope that she's still as fired up about landing that whale as she should be!

    (1) http://techcrunch.com/2010/06/04/nbc-done-lawsuit/

    (2) http://dotweekly.com/company-domain-movers-riot-games-amex/

    (3) http://techcrunch.com/2014/08/18/women-com/

  • by salome2 on 10/15/14, 4:30 AM

    I found this very inspirational myself as a mom of 3 (and I'm psyched to have just applied last week!)
  • by valleycynic on 10/15/14, 7:29 AM

    "Access to venture capitalists: Raising money is incredibly hard and incredibly distracting. The faster you can get it done, the faster you can get back to building something people want. YC is the perfect forcing function to help you raise capital.

    Network: Being an entrepreneur is a lonely path. There are few people who truly understand what you’re going through and even if your friends (or parents) are well meaning, they still don’t get it. YC is the ultimate network and you will be surrounding by people who do get it."

    These two points from her essay reveal more about the true nature of YC than perhaps the author intended.

    In theory, when you join YC, you and your cofounders give Paul & Co. a sizable chunk of equity in your budding startup in exchange for advice dispensed over dinner--advice and dinners which, given the valuations of certain YC-backed startups and the percentage of equity surrendered, cannot possibly, no matter how enlightening the advice or delicious the dinners, be worth the price paid in shares.

    Why then are so many founders eager to make what on the surface seems like a terrible deal? Because what they actually get in exchange for their equity is not mere mentoring, but the access to top VCs like Andreeson Horowitz and Sequoia. Those VCs can in turn, using their money and media connections, hype-up your startup and work to get you bought out/acquihired.

    We like to pretend that the startup game is a meritocracy and not all like the cronyism that goes on in corporate boardrooms where CEOs doubling as board members vote on each other's lavish compensation packages, but it is not difficult to recall examples that suggest it is all too similar.

    Take Loopt. It was a dying product with a dwindling userbase that while novel in concept for 2004, was clearly too early to market and soon found itself in a market awash with location-aware competitors like Foursqaure and Gowalla. But because Loopt had gone through YC and took investment from board members of Sequoia, strings were pulled to get Greendot to acquire Loopt and reward Sam with a life-changing exit and provide him and his investors with a justification for branding Loopt a success. From there, he went on to succeed PG as YC's president, and using that platform, he's written--without any hint of irony--polemics decrying the lack of innovation[1] and calling for startups to work on "breakthrough technologies"[2] despite having as his major accomplishment a failed feature phone version of Grindr.[3]

    I'm happy for Susan and hope her startup is successful, but her experiences has only reinforced my view that success in the Valley startup game is much more about luck and connections than skill and execution. She was suspiciously vague about her financial situation, but one can infer from the essay (buying the domain, flying back and forth, hiring a "full stack" dev), that it's probably much better than most mothers of two, married or otherwise. The requirement that you "move to the bay area"[4] (which she technically violated) all but ensures mothers who aren't rich won't apply, which completely negates her message of "I'm a mom and I did it and so can you!"

    [1] http://blog.samaltman.com/what-happened-to-innovation-1

    [2] http://blog.samaltman.com/new-rfs-breakthrough-technologies

    [3] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=385178

    [4] http://www.ycombinator.com/apply/

  • by vitalus on 10/15/14, 4:38 AM

    "Each week, I either flew or drove to Mountain View. Burning the candles at both ends, this commuting & scheduling hell allowed me to maintain a stable life for my young daughters and make the most of YC.

    I do not recommend this approach and in fact, it’s 100% against YC. You are required to move and you should. It’s exhausting and it takes your focus off of the most important things: talking to users, shipping code, and exercising. Nowhere in that list is commuting."

    If you had to do it all again, would you move and leave your children behind? That seems like an impossible choice to make, and the tone of your story makes it sound like it all worked out well for you. Would you really not recommend the approach you took to someone in a similar situation?

  • by untilHellbanned on 10/15/14, 3:41 PM

    7% on $100K with a "7 figure" domain name, means that YC is already making a return on the investment even if the domain is only squatted.

    This was the easiest investment ever.

  • by danohuiginn on 10/15/14, 9:22 AM

    Good for her, but the commuting process sounds hellish. And from the comments here, several others have been in the same situation. Does YC have any plans to better support founders in that situation?
  • by radicality on 10/15/14, 4:30 AM

    I'm interested how she got that domain, women.com doesn't sound cheap.
  • by jscheel on 10/15/14, 2:28 PM

    The family sacrifice should not be discounted in any way. Specifically, being away from her children during the week could have an impact on her family for a long time. Probably less so with her three year-old daughter, but there will be an impact with her youngest child. There is still a huge amount of inherent bonding that happens at that age. I'm not disparaging her husband in any way, he seems like a good fella, but I can speak from experience. My daughter was 11 months old when I left for 500 Startups. I did the back and forth thing too. And I tried to be 100% when I was home. But that time away from her altered our relationship. No matter how awesome my wife was while I was gone.
  • by geobz on 10/15/14, 11:25 AM

    Thanks for sharing, let us know how it goes in the future.

    That Jordan guy judging from his behavior even with his reply on Reddit seems like a youngster that wants to make easy bucks and doesn't care about the future.

    If I was you I'd make a legal case and go full on him.

  • by qwerta on 10/15/14, 1:26 PM

    I started my own business after becoming stay-at-home dad. I know many parents with their own company, startup is good way to escape corporate cubicle, and spend more time with kids. Not sure why being parent as something worth mentioning here.
  • by foobarfizzbuzz on 10/15/14, 3:25 PM

    I guess I fail to see what would differentiate between a father/mother. Like why does any option make a difference?
  • by untilHellbanned on 10/15/14, 4:34 AM

    Not most realistic role model for YC women. Affording a domain name like women.com and buying full stack developer?
  • by cyberjunkie on 10/15/14, 4:20 AM

    Something about that first photo also also reminded me of the Last Supper.
  • by huehue on 10/15/14, 7:02 AM

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  • by jp on 10/15/14, 4:31 AM

    So is the person sitting next to PG a real prime madonna ? He he... (Sorry!)
  • by was_hellbanned on 10/15/14, 4:10 AM

    I'm not saying this to be negative, necessarily, but something struck me in this essay, so I grep'd it. There are 47 instances of "I", by my count.
  • by benstein on 10/15/14, 2:26 PM

    I like to think of her kid. What will the other children say on the playground? "Your momma wears army bootstrap" and "Your momma so FAT32..."