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Just turned 29, any advices?

by msmello on 10/24/23, 5:46 PM with 21 comments

• by thiago_fm on 10/25/23, 11:58 AM

  Don't follow other people's advice.

  People will tell you whatever they like or has worked for them: have kids, get married, upskill in a certain field or w/e, but there's a small likelihood that this will also work for you.

  Take charge of your life and stop delegating your choices to other people. You don't need to solve the world's problems, but your own.

  So many people have kids being mentally not prepared because they have their own sort of issues. They end up adding yet another human being with many issues to this world, which has enough plenty.

  Don't go work in a field because their family or friends told them to do it. But they end up hating it, or just not really being excited enough about it to succeed at it.

  And so on. There'll be plenty of people wanting to give advice either for egotistical reasons or to make their own audience (like on social media platforms). But they won't be accountable for your life on your outcomes, you are the only person accountable for yourself.

  You can read a few books and decide for yourself whether the contents make sense, and if there's anything you would take the risk to follow through. But don't make the mistake of thinking that because of somebody wrote a book about a subject, or because an anonymous post on the internet has a lot of upvotes, that this should also matter to you. You make your own choices, always.

  The only real tip that should function well for all human beings is taking care of yourself and visiting the doctor regularly: exercise/sports(whatever works for you) and also find some activities to keep your mind happy and working.

• by hhthrowaway1230 on 10/24/23, 7:28 PM

  Your health is really all you’ve got in the end. Im healthy but getting older I do feel a difference now than I did before. If i could do it over I would have prioritized it more. Both mental and physical health.

• by starbase on 10/24/23, 5:47 PM

  Have kids while you're still (relatively) young

• by sysadm1n on 10/24/23, 6:50 PM

  “I've come up with a set of rules that describe our reactions to technologies:

  1. Anything that is in the world when you’re born is normal and ordinary and is just a natural part of the way the world works.

  2. Anything that's invented between when you’re fifteen and thirty-five is new and exciting and revolutionary and you can probably get a career in it.

  3. Anything invented after you're thirty-five is against the natural order of things.”

  ― Douglas Adams, The Salmon of Doubt

• by yongjik on 10/24/23, 5:49 PM

  Networking is likely more important than you think. It's not about getting an unfair advantage; it's more like getting an opportunity to show what you're capable of.

• by shams93 on 10/24/23, 5:54 PM

  In this awful economy I'd be joining the Space Force at 29 to get some income after the tech market was obliterated this year.

• by yuppie_scum on 10/24/23, 7:15 PM

  Pedantic but my advice is that properly stated you would ask “any advice?” We never say “advices.”

• by jjgreen on 10/24/23, 6:13 PM

  Don't worry about 30, that's easy. 31 is a bastard though ...

• by oldsklgdfth on 10/25/23, 11:21 AM

  Wear sunscreen.