by curious16 on 8/10/23, 2:22 PM with 112 comments
by mabbo on 8/10/23, 3:27 PM
That emotionally, it won't crush me to find out my company decided I was in the 20% that wasn't needed anymore. That financially, my family can get by if I spend 11 weeks unemployed. That I can accept a job that pays significantly less than I used to make.
I really did think that the entire experience was going to leave me the empty shell of my former self, that the mental toll would leave me severely depressed, and that my world would be shattered. None of that happened. I had a great summer.
My exciting discovery is that I no longer define myself purely in terms of my career.
by ativzzz on 8/10/23, 3:29 PM
For a few months, I regretted my decision to have kids almost constantly. It gnawed on me. Then I stumbled upon the regretfulparents subreddit. Seeing the posts was pitiful. I saw how destructive it is to our psyches to carry around regret and let it wear us down. I cringed seeing the posts, mostly because I felt the same way they did, and man it does not look pretty. I do not want to be like the people on that subreddit. It almost disgusted me
I remember when I was younger I always said I don't regret anything I do. I seem to have forgotten that mantra, so I picked it back up
I no longer regret being a parent. I still don't enjoy it the majority of the time. But it is what it is. There's no point of drowning myself in my own mental garbage when life is trying to drown me already.
So what I (re)learned is not to live with regret, and sometimes shared suffering can remind me that it's really not that bad and I don't need to force suffering on myself for no reason
by menshiki on 8/10/23, 3:25 PM
by solarmist on 8/10/23, 3:16 PM
* The power of letting go of perceived control or outcomes and just focusing on what I can do now in the moment.
* How to be open and vulnerable and why it matters for building relationships.
by SteveNuts on 8/10/23, 3:34 PM
Not only that, treatment is working for me.
by pzo on 8/10/23, 3:57 PM
I bought electric shaver. I tried decade ago one but didn't enjoy. I always hated chore of shaving - you have to soften your skin, put some foam, make sure your razor is sharp (many time it isn't and you run out of new one), do many runs with razor on your skin, hit razor on the sink so it's not clogged, after shaving clean yourself and razor again and dry yourself and hopefully you don't have any cuts.
With electric razor:
- these days they are small and can be charged with usb-c
- don't require and water or foam (just dry shaving)
- all your face hairs are inside the shaver head and not floating everywhere around your sink
- shaver is magnetic and easy to remove and then just dump down your hairs to sink
- don't have any cuts and don't have to change shaving head (probably one a year or less)
- I bought cheap one (Enchen) with 3 heads for like 20$
If you procrastinate to shave yourself every (second) day give it a try.
by Taikonerd on 8/10/23, 3:22 PM
Easy, customizable, and healthier than regular French fries. I love them!
by Exuma on 8/10/23, 3:26 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kmAc1nDizu0
Work things: typescript, nuxt 3, and converting my ENTIRE 10+ year vim config to fancy Neovim with full LSP support.
by neontomo on 8/10/23, 3:45 PM
by yla92 on 8/10/23, 3:41 PM
This is when things start to "click" for me.
Nothing astounding but these little things got me excited!
PS: Too excited that I even made a presentation to share with people from work. https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1LAdJ4iK-RJVxuIo61RLU...
by ScarZy on 8/10/23, 3:30 PM
Not sure I'll do another one, but it was a good experience and at at an age where performance will start decreasing from here. I need to do a write-up.
by sshine on 8/10/23, 4:05 PM
2020: To not busywait.
2021: To be humble.
2022: That I work for myself.
2023: That not spending money makes me happier than spending money.
by fredgrott on 8/10/23, 3:27 PM
My bias is that I have ADHD with anxiety mixed in. Best way to describe is that if one takes Adderall one gets a push pull effect where you are in focus robot mode whereas with this approach its a focus mode with whole environment awareness without the uncomfortable push pull effects.
by zamalek on 8/10/23, 3:56 PM
by matricaria on 8/10/23, 3:34 PM
by yayitswei on 8/10/23, 3:46 PM
by doublerabbit on 8/10/23, 3:29 PM
by anavette on 8/10/23, 3:40 PM
Practically, I learned how to fully clean stainless steel pans (boil vinegar after cooking; baking soda scrub if really filthy).
by maxk42 on 8/10/23, 3:27 PM
by elpocko on 8/10/23, 3:38 PM
by OliveMate on 8/10/23, 4:10 PM
by Lyngbakr on 8/10/23, 3:45 PM
by hiAndrewQuinn on 8/10/23, 3:48 PM
Excitement for me is measured on a scale of how fast I go from "wtf is this" to "omg think of the possibilities" and given that I was working as a very shell-heavy cloud admin for the first half of this year this quite handily topped the list for me.
by tracerbulletx on 8/10/23, 3:25 PM
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:38 PM
I don't have the attribution but love this quote: “A good question doesn’t give advice, check hypotheses, impose a perspective, share an opinion, make a suggestion or leave the other person feeling judged or cornered.”
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:36 PM
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:54 PM
by PaulHoule on 8/10/23, 3:34 PM
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:42 PM
by yitongovo on 8/10/23, 3:46 PM
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:49 PM
by huijzer on 8/10/23, 5:16 PM
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:58 PM
Learned: Asynchronous daily chat updates are just as effective as stand-ups
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:40 PM
by mattbgates on 8/10/23, 5:07 PM
by jlarocco on 8/10/23, 3:28 PM
by zs234465234165 on 8/11/23, 12:44 PM
by nathants on 8/10/23, 6:40 PM
it feels amazing to be able to spend time inside the program as it develops.
by jodrellblank on 8/10/23, 6:03 PM
I used to have to force myself to go jogging; walking for exercise is so so so boring even with podcasts/audiobooks. Now I positively want to go out biking most days. I had a mountain bike ~15 years ago and all the clip-on shoes and helmet and drove to hills and cycled off-road and it was huge effort and work, and I never enjoyed it as much as my friends did. Now I have a basic heavy squeaky bike and get on it and ride.
I like being able to sprint and coast, instead of sprint and stop while jogging. Being able to zig-zag side to side and feel the dynamics of the bike and my balance as it moves. Being able to move faster than walking while putting in less effort than walking. Feeling the wind as if I'm in a car with open windows or no roof (less intensley, but the same kind of pleasant sensation). Riding with no hands on the handlebar, feels like how bikes 'should' be ridden - more like the motions of walking but moving faster. Or maybe I would like one with higher, curved back handlebars for a more relaxed riding position.
[1] don't just stop wearing a helmet in a North American city riding on an 8-lane stroad with highway speed traffic, or a ride on the British A roads alongside traffic. But Dutch people don't normally wear helmets because their city design prioritises keeping bikes and cars separate, and keeping bike routes safe at crossings and junctions, and they aren't riding fast or racing. Most injuries of non-racing urban bicyclists involve motor vehicles, and the idea that an inch of polystyrene will protect you from a Ford F250 doing 60mph should be a head scratcher not a no-brainer. I would link "Why I stopped wearing a bike helmet" by former editor-in-chief of Bicycling, the world’s largest cycling magazine - https://www.cyclingtips.com/2018/11/commentary-why-i-stopped... but it appears to be gone from the site and from the Wayback machine. He also made the point that people say they wear helmets (or make their children wear them) for safety, but then choose helmets based on price and style, rather than safety rating and crash test results, which suggests they don't do it for safety. Also children should wear them.
The reason I'm making a point of "without helmet" is because it reduces the friction of going out and riding, and it reduces the sweaty head, untidy hair, "where do I put my helmet while in the shop" concerns, and having something strapped to your face/head feels bad. Plus nobody hounds the elderly to wear helmets when out walking in case they fall, but if safety was your top concern, you would.